Best Co-Parenting Tips and How Social Graces Can Help!

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Are you a  parent of a blended family?  Did you just sit through a tantrum about whether or not toys need to be put away before bed?  

A Caregiver?  Wondering, if indeed, your charges do need to do their homework before they're allowed screen time, like you thought they did?

A grandparent?  Riding that fine line between being the "cool grandma," but not going against any of the rules that your son or daughter has been working to instill?

Or how about a recently separated parent, listening to your child wax poetic about how your ex DOESN'T make them eat vegetables for dinner at their house?

Chances are if you're around kids in any caretaking capacity- you are going to be tested.  But co-parenting provides a unique set of challenges, all it's own. And due to the often fragile nature of co-parenting situations, it is so important to set clear lines of healthy communication and mutually agreed upon rules.

Are you thinking to yourself- this sounds great, but honestly?  Easier said than done.

Yeah, we get that.

But, we're here to tell you that it doesn't need to be difficult.  We know that we aren't reinventing the wheel here, but we have taken the wheel and created a system to help you be the best co-parenting team possible.

 

Here are some of our best co-parenting tips:

1. Make a plan

Set clear lines of communication and mutually established rules up front.  When everyone is on the same page and feels equally heard, there's nothing to disagree about in the future.  Social Graces is the best co-parenting app out there, because not only does it allow you to outline rules and expectations, but each co-parent has their own profile to view and uphold the Daily Expectation Contracts.

2. Be consistent:

Consistency not only helps reinforce rules and expectations, but it also creates much-needed structure for your child.  Going back and forth between houses is stressful enough, without having to adjust your daily expectations and routines. With Social Graces, you’ll be able to put your best co-parenting foot forward by maintaining the same Daily Expectations Contract as the rest of the parenting team.  You know- the one that you all discussed and agreed upon together?

3. Be flexible

Miscommunication is easy.  Changes come up. People make mistakes.  All normal things, that in an already fragile co-parenting relationship, can act as kindling.  Do not let them become a fire. When something comes up, or previously agreed upon expectations need to be adjusted, understand that flexibility is sometimes the key to forward movement.  Remember, in an earthquake, it is the rigid building that will crumble. Social Graces, is the best co-parenting app because it allows for changes and adjustments to be made to the Daily Expectation Contracts as needed.

4. Be respectful

Whatever your co-parenting situation may be, it is possible that you and your fellow co-parent are no longer friends.  Setting up healthy lines of communication and established boundaries are important tools for this relationship. But that doesn’t mean that the road ahead will always be easy.  Remember that, for better or worse, little ears are always listening and the best gift you can give your child is a sense of peace and the faith that they can always rely on you and your co-parent.  To disparage your fellow co-parent in front of your child creates unhealthy relationships and weakens the familial foundation your child relies on.

5. Kids come first

The kids come first- they are the reason that you are in this co-parenting relationship, after all.  Using tools like Social Graces will help take the strain off of being the best co-parenting team you can be by simplifying communication.  This means less time debating the values of vegetables with dinner, and more time having fun with your kids!

No one said parenting OR co-parenting would be easy.  Trials will come up! The key to taking these trials and turning them into parenting triumphs and learning experiences for your kids is to have clear communication and established expectations.  Expectations that everyone involved understands and respects.

And hey, whatever co-parenting means to you, chances are, you have more than one person on your parenting team!  Social Graces allows you to add up to 5 guardians profiles to maintain the best co-parenting environment possible.  It takes a village, and we want everyone to be on the same page!